Let’s Talk: Stress, anxiety and losing your mojo

It won’t come as a shock to the people who know me well that I haven’t been myself for what feels like a really long time now.

The reason I wanted to talk about this is because as I am getting older, I’m learning that finding things difficult on occasion is something that we shouldn’t be ashamed of.

Also, I’m a strong believer that if I share the great parts of my life on this blog, I should be just as willing to show the not so great times as well. After all, it is important to accept that stress and sometimes not feeling your best is just a part of life isn’t it?

It’s quite common to hear that someone sufferers with an anxiety disorder so I was always conscious about the fact that I really didn’t want to be just another statistic. But I then realised what was actually important, and that is getting better. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.

Let me make an attempt to explain myself a little bit clearer. I am completely aware that the “About” section of my blog states that I do stand-up comedy, and I did. However, since beginning my treatment for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, I really haven’t felt that I can make people laugh anymore. Do you think it’s possible to lose your “funny”? Because at this stage of my life it feels as though I have.

Having said that, my personality hasn’t just been affected when it comes to making people laugh. Many aspects of my life feel as though they have taken a hit. My writing, my individuality and my style.

I know a lot of people may think that sounds materialistic but to me, style was something that I had always taken great interest in, more so since I started working at COS.

Another one of the areas I have found difficult to deal with is my ability to inject personality into my writing. Without meaning to sound dramatic, how do you go about doing that when you don’t feel as though you know what your personality even is anymore? (Existential crisis alert)

Being so engrossed in recovery has left me with little time to worry or even care about being funny, or stylish, or any of these things because my priorities have shifted.

I pride myself on being original but I have really been struggling to even put pen to paper and my lack of content and stronger emphasis on photography is proof of this.

I just re-read what I have written and its starting to sound a bit “woe is me” so Imma’ wrap this up.

What I’m trying to say is, if I knew a sure fire way to get my mojo back, I would bottle it up and sell it. However I do think that there are little steps we can take to help us on our way.

1. Stop obsessing over perceived problems

Instead of focusing all of your energy on negative thought processes, try and redirect your brain to become more absorbed in constructive and positive pursuits.

Feeling more productive is such an awesome way to counteract whatever negative things you’re feeling. This is where creative therapy can come into play.

2. Creative Therapy

Allowing yourself to become externally engaged in creativity can be a great way to take your mind off of whatever anxieties you feel are holding you back. Paint, draw, write, do whatever. The beauty of creativity is that the way you choose to express it is completely down to you.

3. Escape Mentally

Be conscious of any material that you find calming and make time for it.

Quite often, hearing just one song can flip my mood completely. The same goes for certain films, TV shows or even places.

Making a note of the things you find comforting is a popular and effective way to take your mind off of things.

4. Keep a Journal

Having a journal is great for providing an outlet to not only help you organise your thoughts better and maybe help you get out of your funk, but also to vent. Take advantage.

5. Try and stay away from social media for a little while

Something about social media really doesn’t sit well with me. I just feel it has too much of a presence in society these days and it is easy to look at someone’s edited version of their lives and feel in awe/inadequate. When in fact, we are all just normal people.

Don’t get me wrong, I am on social media, and it is a bit of a double edged sword really because on one hand, It can provide a great platform to express your creativity and I am definitely guilty of falling into the social media trap at times.

However, when you’re not feeling like yourself, I think it is helpful to stay away from anything that impacts your self-esteem, interaction and awareness of the world we live in. Just until you have had enough time to get your thoughts together and make more sense of things.

6. Green Therapy

One of the most productive and effective ways to clear your head, is to make the most of nature. Whether you choose to go for a quick walk on your lunch break or a lengthy stroll on the weekend, it’s a way to find instant results.

7. Exercise

This is the one that we hear the most and when you’re feeling stressed or anxious, getting yourself motivated can often prove itself to be a challenge. But make yourself do it. I have never worked out and regretted it but I always regret the times when I don’t. It all about reclaiming your energy to allow yourself to be the best version of you possible.

Also anything that provides you with a positive distraction away from your internal anxieties can’t be a bad thing can it?

8. Rest

This one is so simple but is quite often forgotten. Spinning plates is only going to fill your mind with even more worry and anxiety. Get off of the Hamster wheel and focus on yourself.

9. Take baby steps

Things take time. If you try and jump in with both feet, you are going to get so overwhelmed that it will most likely do more bad than good. Setting yourself little goals is a much more productive way to tackle things.

Hope this helps!

H x


7 thoughts on “Let’s Talk: Stress, anxiety and losing your mojo

  1. This certainly helps. I suffer with anxiety and that has just recently developed into panic attacks. It’s after my third one that I realised I need to sort it out. I know what I can do to stop me getting into a state, but once I’m in it, it’s very hard getting out. I feel like I need to just be selfish and do what I know will make things that little bit better. But in being selfish, comes the worry that others will think the same and not understand. It’s a tough one but these tips helps xx

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    1. I am so glad this helped Katy. I think when it comes to certain situations, it is important and even necessary to be selfish (it’s not always a bad thing 🙂) Don’t worry about other people because the only person you should be focusing on right now is you. I hope things start to get better xx

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  2. I really relate to this post in terms of struggling with creativity when you are trying to recover from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. You are doing well to write this blog at all. I have always been very full on with my creativity and wrote 75,000 words of a novel in 5 weeks at the end of 2013. But then I had a nervous breakdown because of financial problems and the fact that my ex-boyfriend who I was still close to was having a baby with someone else. I started doing crazy OCD checking rituals 10 hours a day till 5am in the morning. I couldn’t write anything and ended up in bed for 3 months. I went into full on attempts to recover from the OCD through CBT, medication, and writing lists of goals for improvements in the OCD. After it began to improve I wasn’t able to go back to my novels but I picked up a poetry work book and started doing exercises from it that started to get my mojo back. When the financial crisis was over and the OCD much better I was able to go back to my novels and start writing comedy again. Give yourself time to recover from the OCD your creativity and comic skills will come back.

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    1. Thank you Caroline 🙂 I am so happy that after everything you managed to go back to your novels and comedy. It’s so nice to hear and writing 75,000 words in 5 weeks?! You talented lady you! That’s amazing x

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    1. I definitely agree about them sometimes being easier said than done. Things like creative therapy and green therapy are a much easier option on the days when you might not be feeling as motivated. Also a balanced diet is such a good addition and super important! Thank you 🙂

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