Let’s Talk: Being a blogger when you don’t like the look of your own face.

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“I’m naturally shy, so the social media thing is new to me. I haven’t really figured out how my voice sounds on social media, you know? I don’t want to tweet everyday just for the sake of tweeting. Social media can very quickly get fake, and I don’t want to be that guy.” – Hunter Hayes

I have never been someone that particularly likes the look of my own face. I mean, I’m relatively confident in the way I look when it comes to everyday life because it is what it is ennit? But as soon as I see a photograph of myself that someone else has taken I’m like “Fook. Nah that ain’t me mate.”

Now, before I get any emails telling me that this is the most trivial post of all time, hear me out.

Yes, I completely agree with you and yes, with everything that is going on in the world this isn’t a priority but having said that, it doesn’t make this feeling any less tangible.

Also, I am not using this post as an attempt to fish for compliments but if this is something that you would like to do, my details are in the “contact” section of this blog.

Right. Now that’s out of the way, lets get talking. I first began contemplating this subject after a conversation I had with someone or other.

Should I start featuring pictures of myself on the blog more frequently? Will it make my blog more personable? Is the fact that I don’t post pictures of myself something that is preventing my readers from engaging with my work that little bit more?

These were are thoughts that began to whizz around my head, causing a cloud of anxiety along with it. Well, those as well as other questions like “How can I take a picture of myself without scoring high on the ‘Basic Bitch’ scale?” and “Is it possible to take a picture of myself that I actually like without doing that twatty tilting head thing?”

I find it completely baffling that in a world that is so connected due to social media, we are equally as disconnected. The pressures to be good enough seem to be hurled at us from every direction. I have come to realise though, that if only affects us if we let it.

To make things a bit simpler, I’m going to break it down.

Firstly, you don’t need to feature yourself on your blog to be a successful blogger. If you’re wondering whether you may loose followers if you put up a picture of yourself (a thought that has crossed my mind when I was being a sensitive little bean) Then ask yourself, who gives a shit man? Do you really want followers like that? People that look at someone’s face and go “Omg, I’m un-following her she’s a right ugly bugger so she obviously can’t write great content.”

I should point out that I am not in anyway suggesting that people like this exist, I just have this crazy tendency to overthink (who knew?)

I also think that it is important to hold onto the reason that you started writing in the first place. Not everyone blogs because they want millions of followers.

Secondly, I’m assuming that you want your blog to be a true representation of who you are? So if you don’t want to put pictures up of yourself, then don’t. Honestly, don’t do anything that goes against who you are. Nothing is worth it. Unless they are really good looking…kiddin’

Finally, if it is a confidence issue and you really want to start featuring yourself more, then you should try and get yourself out there. I’ll do it with you. I’m in the same position you are and definitely need to take my own advice. Deep down however, I know that pushing yourself out of your comfort zone not only leads to amazing things, but can work wonders on your self-esteem too.

“It is not my responsibility to be beautiful. I’m not alive for that purpose. My existence is not about how desirable you find me.” – Warsan Shire

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6 thoughts on “Let’s Talk: Being a blogger when you don’t like the look of your own face.

  1. Well done on the realisation 🙂 Anybody that judges your blog on something shallow, clearly was never in it for the content to begin with. I like when blogs have a photo, but purely because I feel like I’m talking to a real person that way. Man, Woman, Old, Young, it’s never about judging that persons appearance. Anyone that does, wasn’t worthy of reading your post anyway. Great post, really makes you think. I love the “Equally disconnected” part… Too true, Social Media is a great source of happiness for many, and a source of unhappiness and feeling of unworthiness for others.

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